The Lifestyle Designers firstly assume that we actually know what we want in life and what we value and what we’re passionate about.
Now a lot of us women, if you haven’t noticed, have been brought up with social conditioning to “be nice”, “be the good girl”, “just be quiet and let them talk”, (which means make all the decisions), we have been taught that to just please other people.
As a whole we aren’t encouraged to do what we want. Growing up how many times were you asked “What do you want?”, “What do you think?”
Not to mention the world wide epidemic of domestic violence. 1 in 6 women had experienced physical or sexual violence from a current or X partner. 1 in 4 woman had experienced emotional abuse by a current or former partner.
Emotional abuse generally isn’t “seen” to be abuse. It’s so rampant that it’s become “normal” for a lot of people.
58% had never contacted police so these statistics are most probably a lot higher than what can be accounted for.
Bewtween 2008 -2010 89 women were killed by their partner or former partner. That equates to nearly one women ever week being killed.
This can’t be ignored.
Statistical facts: http://anrows.org.au/sites/default/files/Violence-Against-Australian-Women-Key-Statistics.pdf
So yeah, if you’re a women it’s safe to say that trying to do the “right” thing and “please” everyone else doesn’t equal going after YOUR dreams and desires. As women we are natural nurturers, but we are being taken advantage of by partners who are old enough and quite capable of doing things themselves. We give and don’t get back. We are expected to just go along with that others want from us.
So again, I think it’s safe to say that for a lot of women, including myself, we have no idea of who we are or what we want.
Lifestyle designers assume we know what we want to be, do and have. Though we have no idea!
When the lifestyle designers ask us what our values are, what sort of lifestyle do we want to have, how we need to grow our business around our lifestyle, that’s kinda the whole point, and what is our business going to be? because it needs to be in total alignment with our inner most selves and our business has to be something we’re so passionate about that we could talk about it forever, they ask us what are our top 3 goals are, our 1 & 5 year plans for what we want. They say we need to be totally authentic, totally ourselves in our business, but who ARE we?!
We sit there with our jaws dropping, tears in our eyes because we’ve actually been treated like a person, an individual person with our own needs and desires. We were asked what WE want.
WE also have tears in our eyes because the thing is, we actually have NO idea who we are or what we want. None, like no idea at all.
That was me 5 years ago after cutting all ties with the abusive people in my life. I created an pretty intensive program for myself and was able to rediscover who I was and what I wanted quite quickly.
It took longer to become crystal clear on what I wanted in my business, but we’ll talk about that another time.
I’m starting a 40 day challenge. No TV.
Starting 1st October. No TV at night time. I take Mondays off working all together, so it’s Monday Movie day. I’ll catch up on all my TV shows then, and luckily The Walking Dead is live on a Monday for us in Aust so I can watch it and not have to wait!!!
I’m feeling that pull again to deepen my self awareness which of course deepens my connection with the Divine as we ARE the Divine. Anyways, no TV so I can read all the books that I have stacked up on Kindle, and paperbacks stacked up beside the bed plus the audio courses I want to do!
I totally want to read all these books for further self discovering and knowledge, which of course I share with you guys in a totally easy to understand way.
I needed to find more time, so there it is. No TV through the week for 40 days.
Want to join me?
I’ll be blogging about it every day, starting 1st October. So keep an eye out! If you’re joining me I wish you the best!